How To Help Others Spiritually Awaken During A Life Crisis

How To Help Others Spiritually Awaken During A Life Crisis

Being awake and aware is a wonderful thing. Watching others awaken is a rewarding experience. However, trying to wake someone up is NOT a great idea. This process is the most personal of all experiences. We each must awake on our own, through our own efforts, and for our own reasons. We will all wake up now, of that there is no doubt. It simply is in the cosmic cards. It is frustrating, we know, to see our families and friends in their deep slumber, especially when we know the freedom and dignity that comes with being awake. However, it is not a good idea to force the issue. First, they won’t understand and secondly, you will come off as a wacko or a snob. So when is a good time to “help”? Nanice Ellis really has the best advice. You can follow Nanice at http://wakeup-world.com.

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Ask Permission:

Whatever you do, don’t spew your well-meaning help or advice on someone because they seem to need it – always ask first. How can I help you? Or, may I help you? Also, identify what type of help is being requested, and respect boundaries.

Feeling Sorry Ain’t the Way: 

Be careful not to feel sorry for your friend or relation. When we feel sorry for someone, we are actually judging them and/or their situation, and we are seeing them as powerless. You can never be of service to another as long as you believe he/she is powerless. Feeling sorry for someone might also indicate that you believe that you are “better than,” and you are looking down on this person. You cannot help another from a position of superiority.

Try Compassion:

When we experience sympathy for another, it is just another way of feeling sorry for them. Empathy is a step up, but many empaths take on the energy of the one they are empathizing with, which isn’t helpful to anyone. Compassion, on the other hand, is unconditional love without judgment, and without taking on the energy of another.

Create Safe Space: 

Sometimes, the most you can provide is a safe space for expression. When people feel warmly welcomed by you, and they are sure that you will not judge them, in any manner, they allow themselves to open up, and share. In your non-judgmental space, they have the opportunity to unburden themselves of shame, guilt and despair. The more a person can release stored emotions, the easier he/she can awaken. In order to hold safe space, do not undermine, downplay, contradict, give your opinion or try to convince anyone of anything. Maybe from your awake perspective, loss of a loved one might just seem like energy passing from one realm to another, but if you try to tell a grieving person that she/he shouldn’t be upset because their beloved is “just energy,” you won’t get too far.

Shoulder to Cry On? 

Your friend or relation may just need a safe shoulder to cry on. Don’t underestimate the importance of being that shoulder. Crisis is cathartic, and it may bring up all sorts of old wounds that are ready to be released. Sometimes just having a safe space to cry and open up allows a person to approach new ideas and possibilities. Having said this, if your friend or relation continues to cry over the same things without healing, a professional may be necessary to help him/her break the emotional cycle.

No Advice is Good Advice: 

As an awakening coach and mentor, I rarely give advice. The truth is, people don’t need advice, as much as, they need guidance in finding their own answers. In the asleep state, we regularly seek answers outside ourselves and we follow the rules, morals, ethics and advice of family, culture, religion, society and even current trends. You don’t awaken by taking more advice or instructions from others – even if it is well-intentioned good advice. You awaken as you let go of external input and you go within to find the answers for yourself. In most cases, offering advice to an awakening person is counter-productive, as it supports slumber. Instead of giving advice, the best you can offer is intuitive questions that direct that person inward, and you can support that person to trust himself and the answers he discovers.

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Find the Right Questions: 

Until we awaken, most people are accustomed to addictive patterns of thought, using the same old thoughts to address all issues. This, of course, reinforces negative patterns in our lives. If you can “offer a question” that elicits a new perspective or a higher standpoint of awareness, you have given the greatest gift possible.

Offering the right questions is, much like, providing a map for a lost and buried treasure. The best questions to ask are ones that inspire new ways of thinking. Open ended questions literally open the space for unknown or hidden possibility.

The best question asking approach is what I call the “back door approach.” The key is to ask a question, in such a way, that the mind seeks the answer without the usual restraints. Questions that begin with, “What if…?” are usually gems in disguise.

  • What if you had a magic wand and could manifest anything that you desire, what would it be?
  • What would happen if you let go, or forgave yourself?
  • What would change if you gave yourself love and kindness?
  • What if success was guaranteed, what would you do?

Some of the best questions are ones where you both address and disarm the objections that have kept your friend/relation from exploring new possibilities. Let’s say that she/he recently lost a job in a “left brained” field that wasn’t very exciting, and her/his objection to finding a new and interesting career path is the fear of not making enough money. Your question might be:

  • If you could do anything that you desire, and money was no issue, what would that be?

Once you address, and disarm the objections, the mind is free to imagine possibilities without constraints or limitations. The point is to invite the person to explore ideas outside his/her self-made box (because you don’t wake up in the box). I’ve seen it, time and time again, when someone begins to dream of a new and exciting life, that dream has the potential of generating so much positive energy that the previous objections are dim in comparison.

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Identify Limiting Beliefs:

The one thing that keeps us most asleep is our disempowering beliefs about unworthiness, powerlessness and victimhood. You don’t get through the proverbial gate of awakening carrying any one of these false beliefs. Often, chaotic challenges arise in our lives as direct proof of our beliefs. This does not mean that the belief is true, as all three of these beliefs are inherently false, but rather the manifestation of the belief(s) is an indicator that we have the belief. In other words, we believe the belief. If you don’t know that you have a belief about unworthiness, for example, that hidden belief will keep you from awakening, and you won’t have a clue. The purpose of life is to demonstrate your beliefs so that you can identify disempowering beliefs and ultimately release them; so that you can, in fact, awaken. In this way, crisis and all challenges are actually conspiring for your awakening.

Say, “No” to Negative Energy: 

In my first days at the crisis center, I recall walking down the stairs, at the end of an intense shift. I was clearly aware that if I was to do this important work, I could not take on anyone’s energy, for any reason, at any time. In that moment, I made this commitment to myself and I kept it. In my article entitled Tired of Being a Negativity Sponge? 12 Ways to Prevent Energy Infiltration and Reclaim Your Energy, I share 12 ways to stay energetically clean and clear.

Don’t Judge the Sleepy Folks (even if they are judging you):

Every awake person has felt the judgment of those less awake folks. The knee-jerk reaction to being judged is returning judgment, but that just results in both of you acting and reacting from the asleep state. When people are asleep, they unconsciously judge “more awake people” because they just don’t understand; from the asleep state, it is easier to judge what we don’t understand than to accept it. Remember, judgment is the result of fear, and those who are being awakened through crisis often have a great deal of misunderstood fear. Once again, invoke compassion, and allow a person to be exactly where they are, and, keep in mind, it is not about you, so don’t take judgment personally.

Awakening Snob?

When you are awake, it is easy to identify other awake people, as well as, those who are still asleep, but being awake does not make you better than anyone else. When our tendency is to judge those who are still asleep, our snobbiness backfires on us, and we dose off. After all, you are only as awake as the thoughts you now think.

Encourage Letting Go: 

For years, I studied self-proclaimed awakened beings, and the one thing that preceded every single case of spiritual awakening was letting go. In some cases, letting go was a voluntary act prescribed by spiritual practice, but, in many cases, a crisis, of one nature or another, fostered surrender, which is exactly the divine scheme inherently hidden within crisis. The stress and pressure caused by a crisis situation is intended to persuade us to let go, as letting go is often the only path to relief. In the process of letting go, we release everything that kept us asleep, and like a cork naturally rising to the surface, we begin to awaken.

Don’t Think Everyone is Like You: 

Moving through a crisis (whether it results in awakening or not) is a completely different journey for each one of us, so be careful not to impose your experience on someone else.

Find a Bridge of Communication: 

I have discovered that finding a short video that speaks to a person, in their language, is of the utmost assistance. My son, Travis, was on the verge of awakening, and, as much as he wanted my help, we were speaking completely different languages. No matter how I tried, I just couldn’t communicate with him in the way that made sense to him. Then, one day, someone sent me a video series on creating our reality. Honestly, I thought it was terrible, but it occurred to me that the fellow in the video just might be speaking Travis’ language, and I was right. Travis was attracted to it like a moth to a flame. So, now I could speak to him in a slightly more advanced manner. Then, I discovered the metaphysical teacher, Charles Haanel, and I thought, “Hmm… I bet Travis would love Charles” — and again I was correct. We listened together and we had deep and powerful conversations that supported his awakening. I decided to share Abraham Hicks with him but he totally didn’t get it, so we went back to Charles. I shared Neville Goddard and Florence Schovel Shinn, but it wasn’t until he listened to Alan Watts for the first time, that he really got it.

Mom,” he said, “Now, I finally understand everything you have been teaching me all these years. Thanks for not giving up on me.”

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Silence is Saintly: 

If all this seems overwhelming, then let it go. It is not your obligation to be coach or counselor, even to those you love. You can make a profound difference without saying a word. Let’s not overlook the powerful act of Silence. All you need to do is remain in integrity with your true self – this means that from the awake state, you offer love and compassion, without trying to fix or heal anyone. The powerful and clear energy of an awake person can transmute emotional pain, while also transmitting a message of awakening to all those in proximity. If someone is not ready, they won’t receive your gift of energy, and that’s okay, but, if someone is ready and willing to heal and awaken, your open and loving presence may provide exactly the right medicine.

The most precious gift you can give to others is to see through their masks – seeing them fully awake, in their highest and most glorious expression of love and harmony.

You are love, you are light, and all is well.

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Understanding the Steps to Fully Awakened

In the previous article we discussed how it is necessary to listen to your heart and not your mind if you truly want to expand your awareness and perception of reality. However, as we also alluded these feelings must be genuine and not just words. Knowledge of something is one thing, but mastery of something involves far more effort and is achieved by repetition and practice. We said, tongue in cheek, “fake it till you make it”.

However, there are steps, taken one by one, that can lead you to a state of being fully awake and appreciative of the true reality of our existence and our divine destiny that most assuredly exists. Once you are in possession of this knowledge, your existence takes on a whole new wonderful meaning and living each day is a wonderful anticipated reality.

So how do we start on this path? There really are about eight steps to the process. The first steps are relatively easy and as we progress down the path, step-by-step, it does take a little more effort and time to achieve the final steps.

Step One – Is one that a Human Being makes and is curiosity about awareness. The question is asked, “Could it be real?” That’s where it starts. There is a shift of disbelief or neutrality in one that asks, “Could it actually be real?” That’s how it starts, and there you sit with it upon you.

Step Two – is when you’ve decided it is real and you’re going to do something about it. This shift is the intent of the Human Being to push on the door to the other side of the veil. It gets a little scary, because now you’re going to do something that is against the reality that you have had all your life! Your friends may not remain your friends, because this shift puts you in a launching place of knowledge. Some will go into meditation and say, “I’m ready. Show me what to do. Some will search for books, looking for the steps of ascension and find a system. Some will seek out knowledge so they will have a better idea what they’re trying to do. All of those are appropriate actions. Here we must talk a bit about “divine nature”. Not to be confused with any specific religion, but more about the reality of creation. Again it is an area that science does meet religion and philosophy. Einstein, Hawkings, Jung, and many other great minds have all came to the same conclusion. When observing the universe, and in the case of quantum physicists, the multi-universes, the conclusion has always been that they operate not in chaos, but by intelligent design. Therefore the first source or creator is an intelligence we cannot fathom and that creator created us. It is not hard to understand, but has profound ramifications to the seeker of knowledge. Push upon that door any way you want. Take as much time as you choose.  The result will be the same. In will flow the beginning feelings of your mastery. You won’t know what to do with it, but you’ll know it’s real and has arrived.

Step Three – is one of the most difficult to explain. It is when the Human Being finally makes sense of light and dark in their life. You’re not going to go through the next door until you pass through this one, for each of these shifts allows you to experience the next. When a Human Being realizes that within each one, there is the power of dark and light. There is God there, and there is the absence of God. Darkness is defined as the absence of light. Light is powerful illumination that contains no darkness. Darkness can do nothing to affect light, but light can destroy darkness. The Human Being has the choice to create either one with their own presence and actions on Earth.

The Fourth Step – is the elimination of birth karma and the understanding of your own participation in your spiritual path. If spiritual awareness is never upon you, the energy of karma remains. In other words, you are bound to repeat the things in your life and multiple lives that block your ability to continue your ascension into a broader sense of the reality and nature of your being in the first place. These lives build upon each other energetically and the past life experience shapes the potentials for your current life experience. The name of this ancient system is karma. The very fact that children are born and very early demonstrate their personality is proof positive we are not born as a “blank slate”. Who taught them to be jealous? Who taught them to be angry and go into a rage? Who taught them to be afraid of things like water or certain animals? These were not “learned”, they are part of the karmic reality of that soul in transition. All humanity has this attribute unless they individually choose to void it. You void this incomplete energy called karma, get off of the road of predisposition, and you start creating a new energy for yourself as though you arrived on the planet with no karma at all. Some of the very attributes of your life will change. Your fears will drop away since they’re part of karma.

These are the first four steps you can take to begin to expand your awareness and start to awaken to the true reality of the universe and your role in it. In the coming days we will develop this discussion further. Until then we ask only that you consider these words; that these words can be helpful, and we all can progress to the point that those who are awakening can exert a definitive, positive, and profound effect on our collective realities. With the utmost love and humility, we share these thoughts with you all.