How To Help Others Spiritually Awaken During A Life Crisis

How To Help Others Spiritually Awaken During A Life Crisis

Being awake and aware is a wonderful thing. Watching others awaken is a rewarding experience. However, trying to wake someone up is NOT a great idea. This process is the most personal of all experiences. We each must awake on our own, through our own efforts, and for our own reasons. We will all wake up now, of that there is no doubt. It simply is in the cosmic cards. It is frustrating, we know, to see our families and friends in their deep slumber, especially when we know the freedom and dignity that comes with being awake. However, it is not a good idea to force the issue. First, they won’t understand and secondly, you will come off as a wacko or a snob. So when is a good time to “help”? Nanice Ellis really has the best advice. You can follow Nanice at http://wakeup-world.com.

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Ask Permission:

Whatever you do, don’t spew your well-meaning help or advice on someone because they seem to need it – always ask first. How can I help you? Or, may I help you? Also, identify what type of help is being requested, and respect boundaries.

Feeling Sorry Ain’t the Way: 

Be careful not to feel sorry for your friend or relation. When we feel sorry for someone, we are actually judging them and/or their situation, and we are seeing them as powerless. You can never be of service to another as long as you believe he/she is powerless. Feeling sorry for someone might also indicate that you believe that you are “better than,” and you are looking down on this person. You cannot help another from a position of superiority.

Try Compassion:

When we experience sympathy for another, it is just another way of feeling sorry for them. Empathy is a step up, but many empaths take on the energy of the one they are empathizing with, which isn’t helpful to anyone. Compassion, on the other hand, is unconditional love without judgment, and without taking on the energy of another.

Create Safe Space: 

Sometimes, the most you can provide is a safe space for expression. When people feel warmly welcomed by you, and they are sure that you will not judge them, in any manner, they allow themselves to open up, and share. In your non-judgmental space, they have the opportunity to unburden themselves of shame, guilt and despair. The more a person can release stored emotions, the easier he/she can awaken. In order to hold safe space, do not undermine, downplay, contradict, give your opinion or try to convince anyone of anything. Maybe from your awake perspective, loss of a loved one might just seem like energy passing from one realm to another, but if you try to tell a grieving person that she/he shouldn’t be upset because their beloved is “just energy,” you won’t get too far.

Shoulder to Cry On? 

Your friend or relation may just need a safe shoulder to cry on. Don’t underestimate the importance of being that shoulder. Crisis is cathartic, and it may bring up all sorts of old wounds that are ready to be released. Sometimes just having a safe space to cry and open up allows a person to approach new ideas and possibilities. Having said this, if your friend or relation continues to cry over the same things without healing, a professional may be necessary to help him/her break the emotional cycle.

No Advice is Good Advice: 

As an awakening coach and mentor, I rarely give advice. The truth is, people don’t need advice, as much as, they need guidance in finding their own answers. In the asleep state, we regularly seek answers outside ourselves and we follow the rules, morals, ethics and advice of family, culture, religion, society and even current trends. You don’t awaken by taking more advice or instructions from others – even if it is well-intentioned good advice. You awaken as you let go of external input and you go within to find the answers for yourself. In most cases, offering advice to an awakening person is counter-productive, as it supports slumber. Instead of giving advice, the best you can offer is intuitive questions that direct that person inward, and you can support that person to trust himself and the answers he discovers.

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Find the Right Questions: 

Until we awaken, most people are accustomed to addictive patterns of thought, using the same old thoughts to address all issues. This, of course, reinforces negative patterns in our lives. If you can “offer a question” that elicits a new perspective or a higher standpoint of awareness, you have given the greatest gift possible.

Offering the right questions is, much like, providing a map for a lost and buried treasure. The best questions to ask are ones that inspire new ways of thinking. Open ended questions literally open the space for unknown or hidden possibility.

The best question asking approach is what I call the “back door approach.” The key is to ask a question, in such a way, that the mind seeks the answer without the usual restraints. Questions that begin with, “What if…?” are usually gems in disguise.

  • What if you had a magic wand and could manifest anything that you desire, what would it be?
  • What would happen if you let go, or forgave yourself?
  • What would change if you gave yourself love and kindness?
  • What if success was guaranteed, what would you do?

Some of the best questions are ones where you both address and disarm the objections that have kept your friend/relation from exploring new possibilities. Let’s say that she/he recently lost a job in a “left brained” field that wasn’t very exciting, and her/his objection to finding a new and interesting career path is the fear of not making enough money. Your question might be:

  • If you could do anything that you desire, and money was no issue, what would that be?

Once you address, and disarm the objections, the mind is free to imagine possibilities without constraints or limitations. The point is to invite the person to explore ideas outside his/her self-made box (because you don’t wake up in the box). I’ve seen it, time and time again, when someone begins to dream of a new and exciting life, that dream has the potential of generating so much positive energy that the previous objections are dim in comparison.

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Identify Limiting Beliefs:

The one thing that keeps us most asleep is our disempowering beliefs about unworthiness, powerlessness and victimhood. You don’t get through the proverbial gate of awakening carrying any one of these false beliefs. Often, chaotic challenges arise in our lives as direct proof of our beliefs. This does not mean that the belief is true, as all three of these beliefs are inherently false, but rather the manifestation of the belief(s) is an indicator that we have the belief. In other words, we believe the belief. If you don’t know that you have a belief about unworthiness, for example, that hidden belief will keep you from awakening, and you won’t have a clue. The purpose of life is to demonstrate your beliefs so that you can identify disempowering beliefs and ultimately release them; so that you can, in fact, awaken. In this way, crisis and all challenges are actually conspiring for your awakening.

Say, “No” to Negative Energy: 

In my first days at the crisis center, I recall walking down the stairs, at the end of an intense shift. I was clearly aware that if I was to do this important work, I could not take on anyone’s energy, for any reason, at any time. In that moment, I made this commitment to myself and I kept it. In my article entitled Tired of Being a Negativity Sponge? 12 Ways to Prevent Energy Infiltration and Reclaim Your Energy, I share 12 ways to stay energetically clean and clear.

Don’t Judge the Sleepy Folks (even if they are judging you):

Every awake person has felt the judgment of those less awake folks. The knee-jerk reaction to being judged is returning judgment, but that just results in both of you acting and reacting from the asleep state. When people are asleep, they unconsciously judge “more awake people” because they just don’t understand; from the asleep state, it is easier to judge what we don’t understand than to accept it. Remember, judgment is the result of fear, and those who are being awakened through crisis often have a great deal of misunderstood fear. Once again, invoke compassion, and allow a person to be exactly where they are, and, keep in mind, it is not about you, so don’t take judgment personally.

Awakening Snob?

When you are awake, it is easy to identify other awake people, as well as, those who are still asleep, but being awake does not make you better than anyone else. When our tendency is to judge those who are still asleep, our snobbiness backfires on us, and we dose off. After all, you are only as awake as the thoughts you now think.

Encourage Letting Go: 

For years, I studied self-proclaimed awakened beings, and the one thing that preceded every single case of spiritual awakening was letting go. In some cases, letting go was a voluntary act prescribed by spiritual practice, but, in many cases, a crisis, of one nature or another, fostered surrender, which is exactly the divine scheme inherently hidden within crisis. The stress and pressure caused by a crisis situation is intended to persuade us to let go, as letting go is often the only path to relief. In the process of letting go, we release everything that kept us asleep, and like a cork naturally rising to the surface, we begin to awaken.

Don’t Think Everyone is Like You: 

Moving through a crisis (whether it results in awakening or not) is a completely different journey for each one of us, so be careful not to impose your experience on someone else.

Find a Bridge of Communication: 

I have discovered that finding a short video that speaks to a person, in their language, is of the utmost assistance. My son, Travis, was on the verge of awakening, and, as much as he wanted my help, we were speaking completely different languages. No matter how I tried, I just couldn’t communicate with him in the way that made sense to him. Then, one day, someone sent me a video series on creating our reality. Honestly, I thought it was terrible, but it occurred to me that the fellow in the video just might be speaking Travis’ language, and I was right. Travis was attracted to it like a moth to a flame. So, now I could speak to him in a slightly more advanced manner. Then, I discovered the metaphysical teacher, Charles Haanel, and I thought, “Hmm… I bet Travis would love Charles” — and again I was correct. We listened together and we had deep and powerful conversations that supported his awakening. I decided to share Abraham Hicks with him but he totally didn’t get it, so we went back to Charles. I shared Neville Goddard and Florence Schovel Shinn, but it wasn’t until he listened to Alan Watts for the first time, that he really got it.

Mom,” he said, “Now, I finally understand everything you have been teaching me all these years. Thanks for not giving up on me.”

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Silence is Saintly: 

If all this seems overwhelming, then let it go. It is not your obligation to be coach or counselor, even to those you love. You can make a profound difference without saying a word. Let’s not overlook the powerful act of Silence. All you need to do is remain in integrity with your true self – this means that from the awake state, you offer love and compassion, without trying to fix or heal anyone. The powerful and clear energy of an awake person can transmute emotional pain, while also transmitting a message of awakening to all those in proximity. If someone is not ready, they won’t receive your gift of energy, and that’s okay, but, if someone is ready and willing to heal and awaken, your open and loving presence may provide exactly the right medicine.

The most precious gift you can give to others is to see through their masks – seeing them fully awake, in their highest and most glorious expression of love and harmony.

You are love, you are light, and all is well.

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First Introductions and Messages

As we prepare for the “Event”, disclosure, education, introductions are beginning. Although these messages may not be understood by all, they WILL be understood by those who are awake and ready for their missions:

So here is the first REAL hello.

If You Are Awake, It is Time to Share Your Knowledge with Those You Love.

A great number of us have quietly for years searched for the answers.. the truth of our existence and the true nature of our reality. Many have done so while being a part of much larger families, but while our families knew we were a “bit different”, they really were not interested in what we were discovering. We know this because at various points of awakening, revelations do come that are profound and significant, but without doing the work it is hard to appreciate the wisdom uncovered. In fact it can seem a bit “kooky” to even have such thoughts by those who are absolutely caught up in the 3D world. You want to share and tried, but they would shrug and say that’s nice, whatever.

If you think outside the box at all, or follow an unconventional path, you’ve definitely been through this. You try to share your ideas or information with your friends and family and they think you’re crazy; a good benign sort of crazy, but crazy none-the-less. Sometimes, it’s not your fault, but other times your presentation or how you go about it gave them more than enough reason to think that. So here’s some ideas on how to adjust that!

The time draws near for significant events to unravel. Events that are going to rock the realities of those we love and who have not taken the time to find out for themselves what is really going on in the world. The number one rule of evolving is that each soul has to do the work. However, now is the time to prepare those we love as much as possible for the events that are about to unfold in a rather rapid fashion. Remember, the thoughts we are presenting below aren’t so you can convince people more effectively, it is to simply make you an honest, open communicator. It doesn’t help the overall progression or movement of new ideas forward when we are intense or aggressive about them. In a sense, it can hold many things back.

 

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The Seven Essene Mirrors as presented by James Gilliland is foremost the essential understanding we must have of how the world as we know works in real spiritual terms. We live in an action/reaction world known as the Plane of Demonstration where consciousness creates reality. We manifest and magnetize people and events into our lives according to our consciousness. The Seven Essene Mirrors is a way of understanding how this process works. We can use what seem to be negative experiences as stepping-stones to healing and empowerment. “When life rolls boulders, build stairs.”

FIRST MIRROR reflects to us that which we are. It is something we ourselves are doing or where we ourselves have been in error or wounded.

SECOND MIRROR reflects to us that which we judge. It is something we have an emotional charge with, something we have either been wounded by in the past and have not forgiven. It is good to discern; however if we judge and condemn with an emotional charge, we will attract exactly what we judge into our lives.

THIRD MIRROR reflects back to us something we Lost, Gave Away, or had Taken Away. When we see something we love and desire in another, it is often something we have lost, given away or had stolen in our own lives. Every relationship is a relationship with self and often we try to reclaim what was lost, we gave away, or had taken away as a child. It could be joy, innocence, honesty and integrity, courage or love. All of which can be reclaimed within self.

FOURTH MIRROR reflects back to us our most forgotten love. This could be a way of life, a lost or unfinished relationship. Often it is a past life where a wrong conclusion from past experience was created. These will recreate themselves over and over until the right conclusion is registered in the soul as wisdom.

FIFTH MIRROR reflects back to us Father/Mother. It is often said we marry our father or mother. We also often become them acting out the same healthy and unhealthy patterns we learned as a child. Our fathers and mothers to us as children are Gods. It will often reflect the same relationship we have with others and the Father/Mother God principle.

SIXTH MIRROR reflects back to us the Quest for Darkness or what is often referred to as the Dark Night of the Soul. This is when we meet our greatest challenges, our greatest fears and have been gathering the tools and understandings in life to confront them. God never gives one any more than they can handle and we have a choice in every experience to greet it as a powerful manifesting God/Goddess or a victim.

SEVENTH MIRROR reflects back to us our self-perception. Others will perceive and treat us according to how we perceive and treat ourselves. If we have a low self-esteem and do not acknowledge our wisdom and beauty, others will not acknowledge them. If we are angry, bitter and unloving to others, they in turn will often react in the same way towards us. If we change our perception of ourselves, we change the world. Maybe it is time to be kind, loving and compassionate to ourselves and others. Remember the saying, “The only reason anyone has power over you is you want something from them.” Whether it be love, joy, or a personal God connection, maybe that something can be found within…

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Once you consider the Seven Mirrors, then you must consider the Twelve Attitudes of Mastery . If you develop these attitudes, those around you will sense your mastery and your confidence. They will rely on you for guidance and wisdom. It will be your calmness and confidence they seek as they try to understand what is unfolding in their world.
1. LOVE — Recognition of the TRUTH of the ALL-ONE-ness
2. GRACE —Allowing the ALL-ONE-ness to Be what IT IS regardless of whether it suits you. Living Perpetual Forgiveness.
3. GRATITUDE — Appreciating the ALL-ONE-ness; knowing your Alive-ness.
4. REVERENT – RESPECT— Acknowledging and giving to the ALL-ONE-ness.
5. RESPONSIBILITY — Co-Creating with, Serving and being able to Respond to
the ALL-ONE-ness.
6. TRUST — Knowing the Power and Love of the ALL-ONE-ness.
7. ACCOUNTABILITY — Being in a state of TRUTH with the ALL-ONE-ness.
8. IMPECCABILITY — Upholding and Protecting the ALL-ONE-ness.
9. MINDFULNESS — Loving, Nurturing, and Being Attentive to the ALL-ONE-ness.
10. FEARLESSNESS — Recognizing the Eternal Infinite Nature and Unconditional Love of the ALL-ONE-ness.
11. ENGAGED DETACHMENT — Permitting the ALL-ONE-ness to BE without assigning Critique, Condemnation or Value Judgment; understanding the IS-ness of and Validating the ALL-ONE-ness.
12. JOY — Choosing to BE the embodied ALL-ONE-ness.
These might seem simple to understand and they are, and no doubt you are already aware of these desirable attributes. However, it is now time to release the doubt, reach down and touch your soul and blossom! The winter of suffering is over for Mankind, but spring starts with the birth of all things new. Let it be so with you.