If you are from a family that is typical, then you have been taught from childhood you must strive to better your life. We are taught ,even as a young child, the belief that to be loved meant having to prove your worth each and every day, which meant doing things in a certain way—staying quiet, doing what you were told, getting good grades, taking certain subjects. In other words, we were given a supposed checklist of success, which would supposedly lead to this elusive state called “happiness.”
In school and by our well meaning parents, we were taught to be competitive, to believe that our self-worth was directly tied to accomplishment. We could not be of value unless we achieved something. This is a belief system embraced by many and for most of us, it only served to deepen the feelings of emptiness and downright devastation that we experienced, especially if we failed at something. When one lives in a constant state of competition, there is no such thing as ever being good enough. One lives in a constant fear that you NEVER will be good enough.
This translates into the global perspective in the most insidious manner, that we are somehow “not significant enough” to effect the global changes we all know are needed to be accomplished. This is also being re-enforced by political leaders, and those who wish to dominate us economically. We are the ignorant unwashed masses who don’t understand how to guide our own lives. The irony here is that “those” who think they should be in power and lead, “those” that have all the money and success are actually the ones who are most conflicted on a personal level. They are the ones driven by the secret feeling they will never be good enough or they will never have enough.
“He who knows that enough is enough will always have enough.” ~ Lao Tzu
Thich Nhat Hanh said to lessen suffering in the world you had to reduce suffering within yourself. This is a concept alien to most of us living in a competitive western society. So is the concept that in order to properly love others, we first must learn to love ourselves. In fact, any concept that by traveling inward we can affect the world around us is not well understood. However, this is EXACTLY what we should be doing. As we understand more and more from a scientific perspective about the interconnectivity of all living things and through quantum mechanics how thought influences space and the way sub atomic particles behave, we should realize the TRUTH is within ourselves.
We should realize we are powerful beings that can affect the world around us in very significant ways. We see and hear stories about a child deciding to end hunger or poverty and though their efforts significant movements grow. We see how one act of kindness can energize an entire community like Bat Boy in San Francisco recently.
We must realize the secret: “who you are is enough”. Always has been and always will be. Those at the very top who wish to control the world realize this truth and pray every day that we don’t figure that out. They know that if we do figure it out their days are numbered as being sovereign of us.
It is not easy to break years of indoctrination, especially since that inculcation of thoughts was done by well meaning parents and teachers. However, that is exactly what we need to accomplish if we are going to turn this crazy world around.
Each of us should each day look into a mirror and say these 4 simple statements to ourselves:
1). I love you
2). I forgive you
3). I am sorry, please forgive me
4). Thank you
This is the message we can send to ourselves. By accomplishing this on a daily basis, that message will transcend to all around us and thus a real transformation of this crazy world can take place. I know it sounds simplistic. It is simplistic and so subtle it escapes nearly all of us.
One of the attributes of love, like art, is to bring harmony and order out of chaos, to introduce meaning and affect where before there was none, to give rhythmic variations, highs and lows to a landscape that was previously flat. ~ Molly Haskell .
You are enough to change the whole world and you have always been so.